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When I was growing up, my bedtime ritual always included a fairy tale that started with “Once upon a time...” and ended with the comforting words we all remember: “And they lived happily ever after.” As a child of the optimistic 1950s, I dreamed that life might be like that: whatever obstacles, dangers or perils might come my way, in the end, I would live happily ever after.

There were certainly plenty of struggles along the way, but I have to say that things did eventually work out even more happily than I could have imagined, from a career that I love to a wonderful family, including the world’s greatest grandkids. But sadly, for many people, “living happily ever after” does seem like an unobtainable fairy tale. Why is that happy ending growing ever more out-of-reach for so many people?

Of course, there are always factors beyond our control, like health problems and accidents. None of us can ever know if our birthday or Christmas celebration was the last we’ll ever enjoy. We have no way of knowing when it will all end, only that someday, it will (that’s why it’s said that the only certainties in life are death and taxes.)

Well, I can’t help you with your taxes, but I do have a bit of advice that I think will make death less frightening and greatly increase your chances of living “happily ever after.”

For decades, our nation has been focused on personal pleasure. The message drummed into everyone by pop culture is, “If it feels good, do it.” It’s fostered a culture of self-centeredness that led to Baby Boomers being nicknamed “The Me Generation.” Today’s young people have been dubbed “iGen” because many are so fixated on self and selfies that even their gadgets’ names all start with “I.” Advertising bombards us with the message that life is all about me and all about now. Such messages of immediate self-gratification may sell products and services, but they cause us to sell our souls if we follow this philosophy to its logical conclusion.

At some point in life, we all experience events that shake up our routine, much like the agitator in a washing machine shakes loose the grime in our clothes. We may not want or enjoy such experiences, but they’re necessary to force us to focus on the frailty of life and the certainty of death. They also force us to begin asking what really matters and why.

If we react to setbacks based solely on what feels good right now, we greatly lower our chances of enjoying a happy future. But if we believe there is even a remote possibility that our actions have lasting implications beyond the immediate, both within and beyond our lifetimes, it should cause us to think differently, live differently, and leave a different kind of legacy.

Without apology, I believe that the spiritual side of our lives really does matter. To believe otherwise is to define humans as little more than animated protoplasm, going through the motions of life for no particular purpose. I prefer to believe there’s more to us than flesh and blood. If we possess a soul capable of living beyond our lifetimes, then the seeds we plant in this life will yield fruit forever. If you believe those things, the ultimate becomes more important than the immediate.

When we decide to live beyond our lifetimes, our responsibilities to the next generation will outweigh our roles in our current jobs. More important than the money we’re paid for our work is what we will become as a result of our work. Our character will become more important than the careers we follow.

For all of us, life began “once upon a time.” Unlike the fairy tales, however, it’s up to us to make the choices that determine whether the last line of our life stories will read, “And they lived happily ever after.”

(Adapted from the book, “Rare, Medium or Done Well: Make the Most of your Life.”)

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  • Richard Weedman

    12/30/2022 01:50 PM

    Check out Jonathan Cahn's book, "The RETURN of the GODS".

  • Diane Kunowski

    12/29/2022 11:28 PM

    Well said.

  • Charmiann Miles

    12/29/2022 08:01 PM

    I grew up in the 1950s, my Dad worked hard as a roofer but we were not wealthy. Being a seasonal worker, we had our struggles, especially in the winter months. Based on income, I guess we were considered poor, but then again most of the people in the neighborhood were in the same boat. I would not change my childhood or the work ethics my Dad instilled upon me. I went to college as part of the Upward Bound Program (part of the Great Society of Pres. Johnson). I was lucky enough to live on campus, have a small student loan (which I did pay off), and graduated. Although I was not an A student, I was able to make a life for myself - better than what my parents had. I am not wealthy, but make it work. I grew up learning the value of family - taking care of them when times were tough or they became old and ill. Had Mom live with us (about 11 years) till she passed last year at 95 1/2, then in August my youngest brother who was a smoker, was diagnosed with throat cancer. He had no place to go. He lived in my parents home but was a hoarder and could not return there. I relented and had him come to stay with us till he was stricken on 11/28 and was rushed to the hospital where he succumb to the disease on 12/12/22. I learned that you do not forsake your loved ones. I did not get along great with my brother, but he was blood and did not need to be put into a homeless shelter. My brother who is 4 years younger than me did nothing for either. He visited his mother only 5 times over 11 years and wanted nothing to do with my younger brother. I ended up paying the most of Mom's final expenses and had to clean out the home. Could not find her will and due to the repairs needed to the house, the back taxes due (since my brother did not pay any), the costs to get the house turned over to me were too great for the value of the property. I decided to give the property to the city in lieu of the taxes once I clean out most of the stuff. There are 11 rooms and 2 baths and almost done. Cannot wait to be able to walk away. These are things we go through, but do not brag about or request sympathy. They are taken for granted for someone of my generation to do. Although I am considered a baby boomer, I have worked for what I have and have never taken anything for granted. I believe in fate. I believe that the day we are born, the date of our death is also written in God's book. The end date we cannot change - but the path we choose to take is up to us. I have some regrets in life - risks I did not take but have to live with. Saddened at the fact I did not have children but perhaps that was part of Gods plan. Have learned the last few years, that it is not what physical property you have that is important, but the people you have in your life. Have decided that I will sell a lot of the things I brought over from my Mom's to pay for the opening of the grave for my younger brother and a stone on both of my younger brothers graves. Then I myself will downsize and get rid of what I do not want, do not need, or is not important to my life. We have a 13 rooms, 3 baths and plan to eliminate half of the stuff in the rooms. There is just me and my husband and we are not getting younger and have found my nieces do not want the "old" things we have collected - so I will get rid of it now. I plan to enjoy these later years of my life in simplicity. Work on paying off debt and living a simpler life. Thank you for your comments above.

  • Elizabeth Houghton

    12/29/2022 05:22 PM

    Beautifully written truth!! Thank you, sir! And happy new year.

  • Elaine Rinehart

    12/29/2022 03:22 PM

    First, let me wish you and yours a very Blessed New Year.
    I really loved reading your article as it is so true, and I thank you for writing it. I wish more men would express their feelings more. I wonder if most men just suppress their spiritual feelings or what. (My observation from facebook)

    Thank you,
    Elaine

  • Edwards Paula

    12/29/2022 03:08 PM

    Excellent perspective on important matters.

  • Jones Mary

    12/29/2022 11:53 AM

    Always loved the wisdom of Huckabee ..

  • LARRY MICHAEL SNYDER

    07/16/2022 03:54 PM

    FOLLOWING UP??

  • Deborah Graham

    07/13/2022 01:31 PM

    Mike this is so very true and a blessing to my soul??
    I will pass this on

    Kind Regards
    Deborah

  • Ed Thompson

    07/12/2022 09:12 AM

    Americans have quit God. Attendance at churches is so low, closures are becoming more common than flies at a picnic. Parents should be a child's example of how to live life and when they decide to ignore God or just plain old morality or common sense it’s their own children who will act as they do. Christian values have been replaced with “do what you want”, and don’t care about what happens to anyone else. Jesus has answers for everything if you bother to hear His words but you can’t hear anything from Him if you turn your back on the Church. America has been working on kicking God out of our country. Time to ask forgiveness and invite Him back. And pray for those people who have been doing the kicking!