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July 6, 2023
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When I was growing up, my bedtime ritual always included a fairy tale that started with “Once upon a time...” and ended with the comforting words we all remember: “And they lived happily ever after.” As a child of the optimistic 1950s, I dreamed that life might be like that: whatever obstacles, dangers or perils might come my way, in the end, I would live happily ever after.

There were certainly plenty of struggles along the way, but I have to say that things did eventually work out even more happily than I could have imagined, from a career that I love to a wonderful family, including the world’s greatest grandkids. But sadly, for many people, “living happily ever after” does seem like an unobtainable fairy tale. Why is that happy ending growing ever more out-of-reach for so many people?

Of course, there are always factors beyond our control, like health problems and accidents. None of us can ever know if our birthday or Christmas celebration was the last we’ll ever enjoy. We have no way of knowing when it will all end, only that someday, it will (that’s why it’s said that the only certainties in life are death and taxes.)

Well, I can’t help you with your taxes, but I do have a bit of advice that I think will make death less frightening and greatly increase your chances of living “happily ever after.”

For decades, our nation has been focused on personal pleasure. The message drummed into everyone by pop culture is, “If it feels good, do it.” It’s fostered a culture of self-centeredness that led to Baby Boomers being nicknamed “The Me Generation.” Today’s young people have been dubbed “iGen” because many are so fixated on self and selfies that even their gadgets’ names all start with “I.” Advertising bombards us with the message that life is all about me and all about now. Such messages of immediate self-gratification may sell products and services, but they cause us to sell our souls if we follow this philosophy to its logical conclusion.

At some point in life, we all experience events that shake up our routine, much like the agitator in a washing machine shakes loose the grime in our clothes. We may not want or enjoy such experiences, but they’re necessary to force us to focus on the frailty of life and the certainty of death. They also force us to begin asking what really matters and why.

If we react to setbacks based solely on what feels good right now, we greatly lower our chances of enjoying a happy future. But if we believe there is even a remote possibility that our actions have lasting implications beyond the immediate, both within and beyond our lifetimes, it should cause us to think differently, live differently, and leave a different kind of legacy.

Without apology, I believe that the spiritual side of our lives really does matter. To believe otherwise is to define humans as little more than animated protoplasm, going through the motions of life for no particular purpose. I prefer to believe there’s more to us than flesh and blood. If we possess a soul capable of living beyond our lifetimes, then the seeds we plant in this life will yield fruit forever. If you believe those things, the ultimate becomes more important than the immediate.

When we decide to live beyond our lifetimes, our responsibilities to the next generation will outweigh our roles in our current jobs. More important than the money we’re paid for our work is what we will become as a result of our work. Our character will become more important than the careers we follow.

For all of us, life began “once upon a time.” Unlike the fairy tales, however, it’s up to us to make the choices that determine whether the last line of our life stories will read, “And they lived happily ever after.”

(Adapted from the book, “Rare, Medium or Done Well: Make the Most of your Life.”)

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  • Ron Jennings

    07/07/2023 06:57 PM

    Brother Mike,
    AMEN!!!! I really appreciate your comments. I’m afraid most folks don’t even know what you’re talking about; many totally disagree. When we accept Christ and the Holy Spirit enters us, the Light is turned on and our eyes are opened. We all of a sudden just know all this is real and true. It’s not fun living in darkness but most do. We all are eternal beings. We can have that ‘happily ever after” story when we accept Christ but those who reject Him will be most miserable forever. God bless you and your family.

  • Elizabeth Stevenson

    07/07/2023 06:42 PM

    Thank you for stating so perfectly and with inspiration, what we need to do to become the people that our Heavenly Father intended for us on this earth. My whole life, I have struggled with why people want to be cruel and violent towards their fellow man. I understand that lack of good parenting and religious belief can sow the seeds of self-destruction, but we all have a choice in this life no matter what the circumstances. Families that teach good moral choices and why you will be a happier person by following those choices versus those of an evil direction are essential to create a strong and free country and world.

  • Kenneth Rumbarger

    07/07/2023 02:36 AM

    A good beginning. Very important. So often I wonder if I can even begin a discussion of eternal things without jumping into the middle and failing to lay a foundation.

  • Mark Grinstead

    05/17/2023 12:26 AM

    Quite a thing that now Governor Sarah Huckabee Sanders empowers Arkansas. I pray one day she will lead this nation. From the girl who was only really concerned about what made the bark on the trees and now she is defending freedom and leading with the heart she got from God.

  • Helen Vopasek

    02/17/2023 03:38 PM

    Very well said, Gov. Huckabee! Our pastor uses this theme often in his (excellent) homilies. And, 71 years young, I've seen it around me: everyone seems so self-involved and focused on the next immediate pleasure, often obtained by constantly looking down at a phone). It affects everything and everyone around them. They are, for one thing, clueless about the political & historical situations here and abroad. They don't volunteer in their communities or attend church. They don't spend much time with their families and friends, in person. And, they are all miserable - they're lonely, broke, ignorant. It's important for us to learn that happily every after is something you must make happen for yourself. It's not a necessarily a fairy-tale happy ending, but a life of contentment, hope, and strength - the ability to be connected to God and to loved ones; to make good choices and to handle the things that happen beyond our choice. It's also a generational thing: parents must teach this to their children, who then teach theirs. I am a person of great faith. I am very involved in my church, and I have a wonderful husband and son, 2 terrific grandkids - all hard-working, loving, devoted and devout. We are very ordinary, middle class folk who have had our share of difficulties. Faith has gotten me, personally, through all of them, and many blessings have also resulted for which I am truly grateful to God Almighty. And I pray daily that more of our fellow Americans and fellows around the world, find that true happiness comes from within, and from Above.

  • CHERYL M ORR

    01/02/2023 05:01 PM

    Couldn't agree more which is why I struggled very hard for 30 years to pass on this concept in my classroom in the interactions with overwhelmed co-workers and students who had the wits to understand them by asking questions about how and why they were in the mess they were in and how they could resolve issues that to them seemed to have no way out - sometimes 'they lived happily ever after'. Greatly appreciate your wisdom and sense of humor. Never miss your show.

  • Joseph Hammer

    01/02/2023 08:53 AM

    In Los Angeles your TV show airs Sat. night and is repeated on Sun. I try to watch both. And I enjoyed in particular this past week with your wife and two doggies. My wife and I recently celebrated 50 years of marriage. And we have two small doggies as well. I was disappointed that during the holidays you made no mention of my holiday of Hanukah, as though Jews don't watch your show and love you. By the way in the 2016 primary I voted for you. And first became aware of you when years ago you addressed a NY group Ateres Kohanim and told a story about when you and nine year old Sarah visited Yad Vashem in Israel and she questioned HOW COULD PEOPLE TREAT EACH OTHER THIS WAY?

  • Larry W Huffman

    01/01/2023 05:32 PM

    personally l don't think you should have stopped short of an alter call ;;;; maybe lt has come to the fact that you are not allowed or , this is not the place , or you don't want to "maybe" lose readers , not for me to judge ,jus think you missed an opportunity , GOD BLESS YOU

  • Urbano Hilton

    01/01/2023 04:04 PM

    I credit being able to relate to this article, to having been raised by my elderly grandparents. They weren’t called the greatest generation for nothing

  • Nancy Bragan

    01/01/2023 03:43 PM

    What a shame we can’t elect a President who believes in our real purpose in life. I supported you when you ran. Thank God your daughter Sarah carries on your tradition.