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July 6, 2023
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When I was growing up, my bedtime ritual always included a fairy tale that started with “Once upon a time...” and ended with the comforting words we all remember: “And they lived happily ever after.” As a child of the optimistic 1950s, I dreamed that life might be like that: whatever obstacles, dangers or perils might come my way, in the end, I would live happily ever after.

There were certainly plenty of struggles along the way, but I have to say that things did eventually work out even more happily than I could have imagined, from a career that I love to a wonderful family, including the world’s greatest grandkids. But sadly, for many people, “living happily ever after” does seem like an unobtainable fairy tale. Why is that happy ending growing ever more out-of-reach for so many people?

Of course, there are always factors beyond our control, like health problems and accidents. None of us can ever know if our birthday or Christmas celebration was the last we’ll ever enjoy. We have no way of knowing when it will all end, only that someday, it will (that’s why it’s said that the only certainties in life are death and taxes.)

Well, I can’t help you with your taxes, but I do have a bit of advice that I think will make death less frightening and greatly increase your chances of living “happily ever after.”

For decades, our nation has been focused on personal pleasure. The message drummed into everyone by pop culture is, “If it feels good, do it.” It’s fostered a culture of self-centeredness that led to Baby Boomers being nicknamed “The Me Generation.” Today’s young people have been dubbed “iGen” because many are so fixated on self and selfies that even their gadgets’ names all start with “I.” Advertising bombards us with the message that life is all about me and all about now. Such messages of immediate self-gratification may sell products and services, but they cause us to sell our souls if we follow this philosophy to its logical conclusion.

At some point in life, we all experience events that shake up our routine, much like the agitator in a washing machine shakes loose the grime in our clothes. We may not want or enjoy such experiences, but they’re necessary to force us to focus on the frailty of life and the certainty of death. They also force us to begin asking what really matters and why.

If we react to setbacks based solely on what feels good right now, we greatly lower our chances of enjoying a happy future. But if we believe there is even a remote possibility that our actions have lasting implications beyond the immediate, both within and beyond our lifetimes, it should cause us to think differently, live differently, and leave a different kind of legacy.

Without apology, I believe that the spiritual side of our lives really does matter. To believe otherwise is to define humans as little more than animated protoplasm, going through the motions of life for no particular purpose. I prefer to believe there’s more to us than flesh and blood. If we possess a soul capable of living beyond our lifetimes, then the seeds we plant in this life will yield fruit forever. If you believe those things, the ultimate becomes more important than the immediate.

When we decide to live beyond our lifetimes, our responsibilities to the next generation will outweigh our roles in our current jobs. More important than the money we’re paid for our work is what we will become as a result of our work. Our character will become more important than the careers we follow.

For all of us, life began “once upon a time.” Unlike the fairy tales, however, it’s up to us to make the choices that determine whether the last line of our life stories will read, “And they lived happily ever after.”

(Adapted from the book, “Rare, Medium or Done Well: Make the Most of your Life.”)

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  • Robert Martynowski

    07/11/2022 06:44 AM

    Excellent! Paul spoke of this in his time - 1 Timothy 6:10
    "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil. Some people, eager for money, have wandered from the faith and pierced themselves with many griefs."
    A lot of people today think like "Boss Hogg" in "The Dukes of Hazzard" who said "I named myself as my own beneficiary on my life insurance - I'm gonna take it with me!"

  • Samuel Clawser

    07/11/2022 02:34 AM

    Please comment on the following passage that I had sent to you earlier. Thank you.
    Once there was America whose people were proud of her, where people did not have to lock their house doors their car doors, where health care and gas was affordable, where schools were safe and actually taught education and correct grammar, where neighbors were friends and jokes/speech were not scrutinized, where there was no governmental confinement, where people dressed properly pants at the waist not at the knees, where streets and one's property were safe, THEN there was the liberal civil rights, America's death toll.

  • kathleen pendlebury

    07/11/2022 01:15 AM

    I enjoyed your article - it zeroed in on what really matters in life or what really SHOULD matter. I take issue, though with the statement that baby-boomers have been nick named, The Me
    Generation. Who gave us that misnomer and why? Every single person that I know in the baby boomer age group has been a giver. We have taken care of children, grandchildren and elderly parents - willingly and lovingly. We have given to many causes; from monitory giving to giving of our selves with our time and abilities.
    I just wanted to set that straight because I feel that it is incorrect.

  • Coby Dunbar

    07/10/2022 11:42 PM

    Thank you for your article and Christian message. I am so grateful for your gift of speaking and ability to reach the American people with common sense and knowledge. The messages we so often hear are confusing. When I listen to you I feel like I’m hearing the truth. One of my favorite scriptures is, “God is not a God of confusion but a God of peace”. He says it like it is and we can count on Him to tell us the truth…which in turn gives us peace.

  • Trent Leopold

    07/10/2022 10:20 PM

    Mike,

    I am writing a book concerning prayer and with your permission it would be a privilege to include excerpts from your commentary re: spiritual side of life does matter. Is this okay?

  • Lois E Miller

    07/10/2022 09:09 PM

    I'm already on your e-mail list. I thought you would go a step further and give a bit of a personal testimony as to your spiritual condition. The idea of a spiritual condition is an amorphous concept. A Budhist or an animist may ponder spiritual things!

  • Pam

    07/10/2022 09:06 PM

    Most people believe that our spiritual life is extremely important. Unfortunately though, in America, not many still know what that really means. We can't just listen to ANY spirit. That's one of our national trip-ups; that so many believe that we just have to be "spiritual". We need JESUS, the Son of God, the ONLY Being who knows us, knows what hurts us, knows how to heal it, and is just WAITING for the opportunity to do it. He longs for us to come to Him and be made whole and right with God.

  • Sharon Barry

    07/10/2022 08:58 PM

    I loved your article "Living happily ever after". Sometimes, Christians can feel very isolated, especially here in California, where I live. Religion is downgraded here as something only believed by children and fools. I printed your article on a piece of paper to read every morning after praying for myself and the world and reading my favorite bible verses.
    Thanks.

  • Debora Erb

    07/10/2022 08:54 PM

    Thank you for your informative and inspiring messages…I always appreciate your view and wisdom on the news surrounding us…May the Lord bless you and your family.

  • Paul Kern

    07/10/2022 08:26 PM

    One thing you left out is the fact that hope is what drives most. Without it one falls into despair, depression helplessnesss and eventually suicide for many. Last two years all sides of government have been driving many to this. Only the pastors and churches preaching and living the Word of God can do this!