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July 6, 2023
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When I was growing up, my bedtime ritual always included a fairy tale that started with “Once upon a time...” and ended with the comforting words we all remember: “And they lived happily ever after.” As a child of the optimistic 1950s, I dreamed that life might be like that: whatever obstacles, dangers or perils might come my way, in the end, I would live happily ever after.

There were certainly plenty of struggles along the way, but I have to say that things did eventually work out even more happily than I could have imagined, from a career that I love to a wonderful family, including the world’s greatest grandkids. But sadly, for many people, “living happily ever after” does seem like an unobtainable fairy tale. Why is that happy ending growing ever more out-of-reach for so many people?

Of course, there are always factors beyond our control, like health problems and accidents. None of us can ever know if our birthday or Christmas celebration was the last we’ll ever enjoy. We have no way of knowing when it will all end, only that someday, it will (that’s why it’s said that the only certainties in life are death and taxes.)

Well, I can’t help you with your taxes, but I do have a bit of advice that I think will make death less frightening and greatly increase your chances of living “happily ever after.”

For decades, our nation has been focused on personal pleasure. The message drummed into everyone by pop culture is, “If it feels good, do it.” It’s fostered a culture of self-centeredness that led to Baby Boomers being nicknamed “The Me Generation.” Today’s young people have been dubbed “iGen” because many are so fixated on self and selfies that even their gadgets’ names all start with “I.” Advertising bombards us with the message that life is all about me and all about now. Such messages of immediate self-gratification may sell products and services, but they cause us to sell our souls if we follow this philosophy to its logical conclusion.

At some point in life, we all experience events that shake up our routine, much like the agitator in a washing machine shakes loose the grime in our clothes. We may not want or enjoy such experiences, but they’re necessary to force us to focus on the frailty of life and the certainty of death. They also force us to begin asking what really matters and why.

If we react to setbacks based solely on what feels good right now, we greatly lower our chances of enjoying a happy future. But if we believe there is even a remote possibility that our actions have lasting implications beyond the immediate, both within and beyond our lifetimes, it should cause us to think differently, live differently, and leave a different kind of legacy.

Without apology, I believe that the spiritual side of our lives really does matter. To believe otherwise is to define humans as little more than animated protoplasm, going through the motions of life for no particular purpose. I prefer to believe there’s more to us than flesh and blood. If we possess a soul capable of living beyond our lifetimes, then the seeds we plant in this life will yield fruit forever. If you believe those things, the ultimate becomes more important than the immediate.

When we decide to live beyond our lifetimes, our responsibilities to the next generation will outweigh our roles in our current jobs. More important than the money we’re paid for our work is what we will become as a result of our work. Our character will become more important than the careers we follow.

For all of us, life began “once upon a time.” Unlike the fairy tales, however, it’s up to us to make the choices that determine whether the last line of our life stories will read, “And they lived happily ever after.”

(Adapted from the book, “Rare, Medium or Done Well: Make the Most of your Life.”)

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  • Jennifer Hockford

    07/10/2022 06:39 PM

    I always enjoy your pearls of wisdom. I totally agree. I have given advice a couple of times over the year to several people who are distressed and feeling lost. I tell them what I do I’ll go for a walk in the woods and walk and walk some more until my mind settles down. Then you begin to see green, see the leaves the sky, all the birds and chipmunks. Then you realize GOD made all of this and he is always with you. When you think your alone your not he’s there loving you. Your feeling will bast but GODS love is the truth.

  • LARRY MICHAEL SNYDER

    07/10/2022 06:06 PM

    VERY GOOD ARTICLE

  • David Holingue

    07/10/2022 06:06 PM

    I believe we are a soul that extends beyond this lifetime's body. I was a young boy, about 9, when my mother took me to see a young dentist new to my home. I was afraid of needles so he gave me gas as the anesthetic... but just starting out he did not have an assistant. And he gave me too much... Years later my mother said he was pounding on my chest trying to get me to breathe... But what I recall is taking those deep breaths and then... I was standing on a brown path, with green on both sides and a blue sky above with the path heading toward hills and a brilliant light. Indeed all the colors were so intense and brilliant. I was not afraid or concerned. Off to the side there where these "adults" playing ball... I think the one who caught the ball was wearing blue overalls. I thought it would be fun to play also so I took a step toward them off the path. The "adult" with the ball ran up to me and said, "You have to go back." I replied, "OK"... and turned. The next thing I recalled was being pulled down the dentist's hallway by my mother's hand on my arm. While some people believe we have no more meaning than the leaves on the trees destined to fall away this has given the the strong belief that we are a soul and that soul has a meaning however long or short time we have to live the life we have. The Golden Rule and Hillel's Rule seem to me to be the keys as is the simple one for us to be the best us we can be. Thank you for what you do!

  • David Bell

    07/10/2022 05:59 PM

    The absence of God. And too many people worship their new god, Government.

  • Christine Greenwald

    07/10/2022 05:38 PM

    Thank you, Mike, for your ongoing wisdom and wit. Thanks even more for your devotion to the Truth in the Person of Jesus Christ. Yes, this life IS just the beginning, and we need to pass THAT truth — and the reason for our faith — to the next generations!

  • Steven Strolberg

    07/10/2022 05:29 PM

    Well said, Sir!

  • Flo Fitzhugh Steward

    07/10/2022 05:26 PM

    I totally agree with you. Our country needs to get back to God and family where children are loved and taught to work for what they want.

  • Les South

    07/10/2022 05:09 PM

    Brilliantly stated, Governor.

  • Roy Lee Seay

    07/10/2022 05:06 PM

    For many “happily ever after” begins in eternity.
    Never forget that??

  • LARRY MICHAEL SNYDER

    07/10/2022 05:48 AM

    JUST FOLLOWING UP ON MY PREVIOUS SUBMITTAL