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When I was growing up, my bedtime ritual always included a fairy tale that started with “Once upon a time...” and ended with the comforting words we all remember: “And they lived happily ever after.” As a child of the optimistic 1950s, I dreamed that life might be like that: whatever obstacles, dangers or perils might come my way, in the end, I would live happily ever after.

There were certainly plenty of struggles along the way, but I have to say that things did eventually work out even more happily than I could have imagined, from a career that I love to a wonderful family, including the world’s greatest grandkids. But sadly, for many people, “living happily ever after” does seem like an unobtainable fairy tale. Why is that happy ending growing ever more out-of-reach for so many people?

Of course, there are always factors beyond our control, like health problems and accidents. None of us can ever know if our birthday or Christmas celebration was the last we’ll ever enjoy. We have no way of knowing when it will all end, only that someday, it will (that’s why it’s said that the only certainties in life are death and taxes.)

Well, I can’t help you with your taxes, but I do have a bit of advice that I think will make death less frightening and greatly increase your chances of living “happily ever after.”

For decades, our nation has been focused on personal pleasure. The message drummed into everyone by pop culture is, “If it feels good, do it.” It’s fostered a culture of self-centeredness that led to Baby Boomers being nicknamed “The Me Generation.” Today’s young people have been dubbed “iGen” because many are so fixated on self and selfies that even their gadgets’ names all start with “I.” Advertising bombards us with the message that life is all about me and all about now. Such messages of immediate self-gratification may sell products and services, but they cause us to sell our souls if we follow this philosophy to its logical conclusion.

At some point in life, we all experience events that shake up our routine, much like the agitator in a washing machine shakes loose the grime in our clothes. We may not want or enjoy such experiences, but they’re necessary to force us to focus on the frailty of life and the certainty of death. They also force us to begin asking what really matters and why.

If we react to setbacks based solely on what feels good right now, we greatly lower our chances of enjoying a happy future. But if we believe there is even a remote possibility that our actions have lasting implications beyond the immediate, both within and beyond our lifetimes, it should cause us to think differently, live differently, and leave a different kind of legacy.

Without apology, I believe that the spiritual side of our lives really does matter. To believe otherwise is to define humans as little more than animated protoplasm, going through the motions of life for no particular purpose. I prefer to believe there’s more to us than flesh and blood. If we possess a soul capable of living beyond our lifetimes, then the seeds we plant in this life will yield fruit forever. If you believe those things, the ultimate becomes more important than the immediate.

When we decide to live beyond our lifetimes, our responsibilities to the next generation will outweigh our roles in our current jobs. More important than the money we’re paid for our work is what we will become as a result of our work. Our character will become more important than the careers we follow.

For all of us, life began “once upon a time.” Unlike the fairy tales, however, it’s up to us to make the choices that determine whether the last line of our life stories will read, “And they lived happily ever after.”

(Adapted from the book, “Rare, Medium or Done Well: Make the Most of your Life.”)

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  • LARRY MICHAEL SNYDER

    07/10/2022 01:39 AM

    Mike: Your article has helped me refocus my perspectives on my life & death ahead. I recently lost my wife while in the Philippines. I was at her bedside when she passed. I lost my mother last year. I was able to depart the Philippines on the last plane out of Manila and returned to my home in Juneau, Alaska and was able to spend a week with Mom before she passed. I thank God for allowing that to happen. In the past year I have also lost my 2 best lifelong friends + a half doz. other friends. I was getting the feeling I must be left behind for a purpose. I pray nightly for all these individuals but I also ask God what is now my mission? His answer is partly in your MESSAGE. I gleened that I do have a purpose and must refocus on not what I want to do but what God wants me to do. We are moving into very turbulent times and expect their will be much to do. For me likely it will be in the Philippines as want to be close to my departed wife & her family. I will return to the Philippines with a newfound purpose. Thank you for the inspiration. God Bless!!

  • Arthur Hastings

    07/09/2022 08:46 AM

    I diffently believe in the spiritual. My wife and I are married for 56 years. It seemed that every time we needed money for some unexpected matter we found it. An example is something that happened recently. Our water heater went on the fritz. A new one cost over $1200. It turned out that it was under warranty, that saved us that. The plumber wanted another $1200 to install it. Afert that he found that the water pressure coming into the house was was to high. He had to do another $975 worth of work. This was paid for by an unexpected check for $2850 from the state for school tax rebate. While doing the plumbing for the pressure work he went to hook up the electric ground and found that we had a short in the house. We called the electric company and they found the short where the power comes into the house. We then needed an electrican. That was another $735. All this was paid for with that check and what little we had in the bank. We (my wife and I ) believe that all of this happened to find the short and save us from a possible fire. It's said that GOD works in mysterious ways and we truely believe that. This has happened more times than I can count where GOD came thru to bail us out.

  • Janet Anderson

    07/08/2022 09:28 PM

    Beautifully said! Whether our lives are short or long our time here is but a brief moment of eternity.

  • Peggy wade

    07/08/2022 08:34 PM

    I tried to answer your Huck Pac email but could not so I will give my reply here:

    No more money for Huck Pac.  Charlie Helmick was who we (Mclean County Republicans) favored over Esther Joy King & Peggy Hubbard over Kathy Salvi.  


    Mary Miller was ok but 1 out of three isn't good. What a disappointment.


    Peggy Wade

  • Mary Dickinson

    07/08/2022 04:37 PM

    Many years ago, I was having a conversation with a friend who said she wanted it all. I said to her that I didn't want it all, I just wanted enough. She looked at me as if I had 3 heads. The reason people are unhappy is because they have an unrealistic idea of what it means to be happy. Happy is having enough to have a home you can afford, not a mansion on the hill and the latest pricey gadgets. Because there will always be bigger mansions and newer pricey gadgets and you can get dizzy trying to keep up and never be happy with anything. You never really value anything because there will always be something new. You will work yourself to death trying to keep up, and you will never be happy because you don't really know what happy is. Having a flashy high paying career that you think impresses others where you work 60 -80 hours a week because you are so important isn't going to make you happy. Talk about your plumbers, electricians, mechanics ,or carpenters, or all the thousands of middle class jobs out there. They make good money and at the end of the day, their job is done. They have their weekends to watch their kids ball games, tinker in the garage, you know, have a life, because they make things, they build things, they provide services, they are proud of what they do. Of course it would really help if the people who they provide services to appreciated what they did for them. Not to sound like Pollyanna, we had our salad days. My husband went to college on the GI Bill in the 60's and we ate pancakes 3 times a day till payday. He had a part time job and 2 in the summer. When he graduated we had 2 kids. I was a stay at home mom. We had what we needed, mostly. He always said we weren't poor, we were broke. We always knew we would get there. But we were happy. and as we moved through life we got more happy because we were happy with what we had. We had enough. And we had enough because we earned it, worked hard for it and valued it. I have one purse. I carry it with whatever I wear, and after a few years when it starts to look a little grubby, I buy a new one. Having a purse and shoes to match every outfit is not life changing.

  • robert waters

    07/08/2022 04:15 PM

    You always have something good that I share with others, but this last posting really is well written and timely. It is the one with "the spiritual side of life" and the one of "Self-Government and discipline."

    We would like to do another cruise with you guys, but I refuse to take the vaccine. Therefore, I guess I grounded until that silly requirement is rescinded.

  • Rhonda L Chadwell

    07/08/2022 03:25 PM

    I agree whole-heartedly! Please consider reading my newly published book, "The Nativity People." I'm hoping the seeds planted within it will yield fruit forever. Thank you for what you do, Governor!

  • Fred Sayin

    07/08/2022 02:45 PM

    There are 2 books that are worth reading. The first one is titled: " I Don't Have Enough Faith to be An Atheist". It took me to about the end of Chapter Two to realize the author was Christian. First Chapter was about Polytheism and the 2nd Chapter was about Monotheism, the 3 Great World religions. The second book is titled: "The Subconscious Mind Can Change Your Life" by Dr. Mike Dow. If you tell yourself in the morning upon arising: "today will be a bad day", everything will go wrong for you. However, a person states something positive that will attract positive events.

  • Debbie Shivers

    07/08/2022 02:44 PM

    Mr. Huckabee, Thank you for this article. I agree 100%. Unfortunately, we have taken away "the pretend" for children. Yes, the spiritual side of life is so very necessary. We are forgetting that, too, as a society. I believe that maybe God is using our struggle in 2020 & now in 2022 to help us find, once again, the spiritual side of life.

    Debbie Shivers

  • Kristin Marie Hawkinson

    07/08/2022 02:44 PM

    You are so right, Mr. HUCKABEE. I AM A 65 YEAR OLD JUST RETIRED GRANDMA AND EXCITED TO HELP WITH THE YOUNGER GENERATION BY HELPING IN CHURCH AND BY SUB TEACHING AND AM LOOKING INTO FOSTER CARE. THANK YOU FOR YOUR NEWSLETTERS.